My partner and I are engaged! We were not in any hurry to marry, but now that we are engaged we have rushed headlong into wedding planning. After a week we had a tentative guest list, date, and budget. (Can we just elope already? the wedding industry machine behaves sort of like a strong-arm robber! “But your guests HAVE to have a wine pour at dinner and monogrammed favors and alcohol that has been blessed by a celebrity priest!”)
One of the things in the very back of my mind when I took a sewing class last year was, “maybe someday I will be able to make my own wedding dress.” Let’s be honest, just because I was not thinking about getting engaged anytime soon does not mean I didn’t have a secret Pinterest wedding board going. As an artist, handmade objects are very important to me. Generally speaking, when you buy handmade you are supporting an artist and their talents, you are getting a quality item and it speaks to your unique personality. That said, I am not looking down on my IKEA furniture because sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to store your shoes.
wedding dress clothing options can be limited. That’s just a fact, and it seems to me that my plus size wedding dress options are strapless white dresses or strapless white dresses with lacy boleros. As a fat woman, I am getting mighty sick of boleros. I get it and I own my fair share of the things. The reason I own them is because it is damn hard to find dresses with sleeves! If you like sleeveless, more power to you, but I like sleeves. Nothing against my wiggly upper arms, but I just prefer to wear sleeves. For wedding dresses it seems like the bolero is almost always an after-thought and they rarely match the dress itself.
But I digress…So while trying to find dresses that are more my style, I stumbled upon two brides with AMAZING, GORGEOUS, UNIQUE, WHIMSICAL, INPSIRING dresses. First up is Nicolette Mason in a Christian Siriano custom dress. I want tulle and sparkles for days, please! Hello, sleeves that were part of the dress-making process! I can tell you right now I would wear this dress all damn day!
The second one is Lindy West is in a custom dress by Mark Mitchell. It is so rainbowy and gorgeous and it goes along with this amazing body positive article called, “Lindy West: I Hope Every Fat Girl in the World Reads This.” This is a great read it if you have ever felt like you couldn’t wear something because of how your body might be perceived, by you or other people. (Also there is a good Nikki Gloudeman piece on Huff Post.) Look at the detail work! It feels totally Mae West, “Why don’t you come up sometime and see me?” Hand sewn details are a common theme in the dresses I have liked so far.
Now I’m not nearly nutty enough to think I have the skills required for dresses like these right now. They are just really pretty inspiration dresses to help me brainstorm. I have to say the reception to my mentioning that I would like to sew my own dress has been mixed. There have been flat-out “No’s” to “you’re going to be so stressed anyway” all the way to “do it, I wish I would have made my own dress.”
The factors are:
- I have less than a year of sewing under my belt.
- I have over a year to make it.
- I have realistic ideas of the costs of me-made and RTW.
- Sewing doesn’t stress me out…
- but I have also never planned a wedding before.
- I REALLY want to make my own dress, but I really don’t want everyone to stress about whether or not it is going to come together.
So should I even be contemplating making my own wedding dress? (I’m already contemplating, honestly.)